Hating What You Do
I have a friend who has been stuck hating the same job for the past two years. He HATES what he does. Sadly though, it seems like every time we chat and the question of ‘So, how are you doing?” comes up, I always get a flat lined “I’m doing…” or some sarcastic variation. Then there is mumbling/grumbling about how impossible it feels to find something new.
“Have you been sending out your resume?” I ask.
“Nope.” He replies.
“Have you been looking for options?” I ask again.
“There’s nothing out there anyway.” The unspoken next line is something like: “I’ll be stuck for the rest of my life.”
Well, two years so far…and that’s as long as I’ve known him.
I’m not sharing this in judgement. I know what it’s like to be so broken you don’t know how to move forward – to be totally lost, and to have weeks bleed into months, and months burn into years with zero (or really hard to see) positive change.
It sure seems like the harder it gets, the more tempting it feels to look – and keep looking – down. And down becomes your mindset….and if you don’t change that downward focus, it’s where you end up. Down.
What Are You Reaching For?
I’ve been reading Zig Ziglar’s “See You At The Top.” What a powerful book!
If you want to reach a goal, you must ‘see the reaching’ in your own mind before you actually arrive at your goal. – Zig Ziglar
You have to envision where you are wanting to go. You need to see yourself getting there, and what getting there will look like BEFORE you actually do it. ‘See the reaching.’
The sad truth, which I have read multiple times over the past few days in Zig’s book, and have experienced in my own life, is that this ‘seeing the reaching’ can be positive as well as negative!
If you all you can see and envision are your feet, and how awful your job is, and how you’ll never find a way out because ‘nobody is hiring these days anyway’ you’ll wind up in the same dead end job you’ve had for the past 2 years….for the past 3 years…for the past 4 years…for the past…. you get the picture.
It’s a powerful point, and a scary one if you’re not looking where you’re going!
What are you seeing these days? What are you reaching for? And if you were to change nothing in your life for the next three years, will you be happy about the result?
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